What is love?
What is love? How do you define love?
How to recognize love? How do I know if I like it? These are questions I have been asked recently. I answer it through this article. What is love? We all have our own definition of love. A definition that corresponds to our age, our personal development, our balance and/or our maturity in the field of romantic relationships. Someone who begins their first love story will often associate love with love at first sight, passionate love, the pounding heart. Someone who has had many relationships and knows personal balance in their life will have more perspective on their feelings. Love will, therefore, be for him or her, represented by the sharing of values, the respect of personal space and the sharing of a common life objective. Some people sometimes choose a definition that allows them to justify their actions and behaviors. For example, someone with unhealthy jealousy and/or emotional dependence will justify their actions by the love they have for their partner. A sickly jealous person will probably say that we must do everything out of love for our partner. Likewise, a man or a woman who has low self-esteem will think that love is giving oneself completely to the other and forgetting oneself in the relationship.
In summary, our vision of love is closely linked to our emotional maturity.
There is no bad vision of love. On the other hand, but there are loves that are healthier than others.
Can we love someone we don’t know well?
To understand what love is, especially “true love”, you have to go back to what it is not.
It takes time to get to know someone, to really get to know them: their qualities, their faults, their specificities, their habits, their habits, etc.
We know someone when we live with him/her for a long time. You cannot really know someone without having lived with that person. Those who have lived together know this.
We learn a lot from this experience which allows romantic love to be compared to love in real life: cleaning, washing, confronting our habits and our tics, living together in a small space where we have need some personal space,…
With time and cohabitation, we begin to learn more about the person we love. The more time passes, the more we get to know it.
At this point, we can appreciate our partner as he really is. Or else we can see that it is not really made for us. Or that we don’t really support who he is. Or else find that he doesn’t respect us.
So it takes time to get to know someone.
it is not loved to tell someone that you love them at the start of a relationship when you know almost nothing about them.
We like his physique, we like his charm, we like his humor, we like his confidence, we like the way he treats us, we like his image …
But you can’t say you like it. Simply because we don’t really know him.
What is healthy love?
There is no wrong definition of love but there are practices of love that will make you suffer more than others.
If you dominate your partner or he dominates you, it is not healthy to love.
If you don’t respect your partner or they don’t respect you, it means you don’t love yourself.
If you’re trying to come back with an ex who doesn’t love you, it does not love. It’s a lack of love for who you are.
If you can’t do without your partner and suffocate them, it does not love. It’s a need for love. We all need love but not at any cost.
What is love?
So, what is love?
At a minimum, it is to love who she is and to accept her as she is.
You can’t love someone you don’t know. And at the start of the relationship, we don’t know each other.
It takes years to really learn who that person is who we sleep with every night.
You have to live together and get to know it, If you think you love someone when you have known them for a few days, weeks or months, it is either that you like the feeling of loving, or that you like the image that it reflects on your worth.
Walking with a very beautiful man or woman can be good for the ego.
We can believe to love this person because his presence does us good. While our love is unconsciously motivated by the gaze of others or allows us to reassure ourselves that we have value and importance. To love in a healthy and balanced way, you have to learn to love yourself outside of your relationship.
The secret to finding healthy and lasting love is to learn to love and respect yourself.
But it is also to respect your partner and to show kindness and tolerance towards him and your differences. What you experience in your love stories is a reflection of your vision of love. There is no chance of love …